I am asking my fully employed adult children to contribute $100 weekly for shared expenses. While my son agrees, my daughter strongly opposes and even threatens to quit her job. AITA?
Your method seems fair, but I’m curious how you arrived at that number. Have you talked about what expenses are covered? I’m wondering if discussing each of everyone’s expectations could make it all more transparent. What does everyone feel is a fair share?
i get what ur sayin but maybe its more about teachin them money management than just payin rent. a clear convo bout what contributes could even help avoid ultimatums and set real life lessons
In my experience, having adult children contribute to household expenses is a device meant to foster financial responsibility rather than a punitive measure. While a fixed contribution might seem arbitrary, it works best when it is part of a broader conversation about shared costs. I have observed that transparency regarding which expenses are covered and why they are being shared tends to lead to better understanding among family members. The idea is to balance the nurturing environment with the grim realities of managing a household. Open dialogue can help prevent misunderstandings and ensure all parties acknowledge the benefits of equitable participation.
I’m curious about your daughter’s point of view. Have you considered if her resistance might reflect deeper concerns about independence or control? It could be interesting to explore alternatives that feel fair to both sides. What do you think might help her see it in a different light?