I’m really worried about my buddy. She hasn’t paid her house payments or local taxes for a couple of years now. She’s just brushing off all the warnings and legal stuff coming her way. I’ve tried to tell her she might lose her home, but she says I shouldn’t worry.
She claims she’s part of some ‘money rebel’ group and thinks the whole system is fake. According to her, if she just ignores it long enough, they’ll give up. She’s convinced it’s all about having the right attitude and trusting her gut.
I don’t want to butt in, but this seems really risky and not based in reality. She’s into some pretty out-there stuff - thinks her apartment is alive, talks about healing the world by watching bad things happen, and believes AI controls everything. She’s also into crystals, weed, and thinks her ‘kundalini is rising’ whatever that means.
I’m not sure what to do. Should I keep trying to help or just back off? Has anyone dealt with something like this before? Any advice would be great.
This sounds complicated! Have you explored what inspired her beliefs?
Perhaps there’s deeper stress behind her choices. It might help if she talked with a professional about her finances. How do you think gentle support could encourage her to consider the risks?
Your friend’s situation is indeed concerning. Financial denial can have serious consequences, and her unconventional beliefs seem to be fueling this behavior. While it’s admirable that you want to help, ultimately, she’s responsible for her own choices.
Consider having one more frank conversation about the real-world implications of ignoring financial obligations. Explain that regardless of her beliefs, banks and government entities have legal recourse that could result in asset seizure or other penalties. If she remains unreceptive, you may need to step back for your own well-being.
Remember, you can’t force someone to accept reality if they’re not ready. Sometimes people need to face consequences before they’re willing to change. Be prepared to offer support if/when she does come around, but protect your own boundaries in the meantime.
yikes, that’s a tough spot ur friend’s in. maybe try showing her some real stories of ppl who lost their homes? sometimes seeing others go thru it can wake someone up. but if she won’t budge, might have to let her learn the hard way. sucks, but u can’t force someone to see reality